Recently I am beginning to come to terms with the fact that though I have a small circle of friends, my interests are completely different than everyone I know here and my life is going a different direction. That is okay though. I have taken a greater initiative recently to better my life and already I have benefited by meeting new folks and making some new friends around here.
I began to ask myself this question last week, and it’s the proverbial question we always ask regarding our outlook on life.
Is the glass half full or half empty?
Honestly, I don’t know the answer to that question, because in my opinion, it depends whether someone just poured water into the glass or just drank from it.
So seeing as that question didn’t work as I couldn’t come up with an answer that would solve my problem, I began to sit and ruminate and wonder things I could do and have done to improve my situation. I prayed a bit, read the Word, rocked back and forth on the floor, typed some stuff out, pounded my desk, paced back and forth, and all the while I was thinking of why a bunch of my friendships in recent years has hit a barrier, with it all coming to a head here in Springfield.
I found the solution, and Nick helped me finally put an end to my wondering as we went to get Starbucks on Tuesday night.
The solution is this: I am an entirely unique individual. So unique, in fact, that my interests are completely incompatible with most people I know here. Having moved here to Springfield to restart my life, and having hit a brick wall where I am at socially at the moment, it is up to me and me alone to improve my situation. With God’s help of course.
That’s the basic gist of it. You can’t force friendships that are merely acquaintanceships, and that’s not because I’m a loner or anything (quite the opposite). It’s just that you can’t expect to walk into a group that has an established presence, break the wall and join right in the conversation, so to speak. It takes time to be drawn in — naw, scratch that, if your interests are completely different from theirs, the only common bond you share is gonna be God.
Great people, different interests. The arts as opposed to sports. Watching someone dance as opposed to watching someone bounce off tacklers and run 99 yards to paydirt. Watching The Office as opposed to football. Oil as opposed to water.
These physical differences can also hamper people spiritually too. Based on what I’ve written above, if you can’t get to know someone well enough to find out a fraction of what makes them tick, you’re not going to be able to help them spiritually unless you’ve got a good dose of the Holy Spirit. And even then it’s gonna be a one shot thing because you won’t be the first person they seek out for your company. Once again, that’s just due to different personalities.
So my struggle lies with ME and ME alone. I need to go out and find a group that shares similar interests, continue to involve myself in a second church body in addition to the one I am called to, and just throw myself out there and network. I’ve got nothing to lose, in all reality.
Good thing I discovered the solution just in time for Christmas, huh?
Well, that’ll be it for now. I’ve got to go pour some water into this glass sitting on my desk.